What Do You Really Want?

Type: Pair (Reciprocal)
Duration: 10–20 minutes per pair
Posture: Seated, face to face

Purpose:
To expose the recursive structure of craving and identity by sustaining, rather than resolving, the desire–action–being loop.

START
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[Form pairs]
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│ Sit facing each other
│ Knees almost touching
│ Posture open
│ Arms and legs uncrossed
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[Set roles]
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│ Partner A = Questioner
│ Partner B = Responder
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[Listening constraint]
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│ Questioner:
│ • No commentary
│ • No judgement
│ • No encouragement
│ • Just listen
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[Begin loop]
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(1) Ask:
“What do you really want?”
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[Response]
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(2) Ask:
“What will you do to get what you really want?”
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[Response]
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(3) Ask:
“When you get what you want, what will you be?”
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[Response]
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{Loop}
├─ Continue?
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│ ├─ YES → return to (1)
│ └─ NO → continue
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[End first cycle]
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[Swap roles]
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│ Partner B becomes Questioner
│ Partner A becomes Responder
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[Repeat full loop]
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END

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Practice Notes

• The loop is intentionally prolonged beyond comfort.
• No attempt is made to arrive at a “true” answer.
• The effectiveness lies in repetition, not insight.

The algorithm succeeds when:

• Answers begin to circle
• Motivation becomes abstract or unstable
• The identity implied by “I will be…” loses solidity

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Marginal Annotation

This algorithm does not seek fulfilment.
It reveals desire as a self-sustaining inference loop.

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Context-Oriented Arts Note

• The listener functions as context, not participant.
• Silence prevents resolution and preserves the loop.
• What is revealed is not content (“what I want”) but structure (how wanting operates).

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Entropy Footnote

Craving is an attempt to reduce uncertainty by projecting fulfilment into the future.
This algorithm increases tolerance for uncertainty by allowing the loop to exhaust itself without intervention.